My Two Cents : Social Media is not Real?

by - 11/04/2015 11:03:00 AM

I just took my IELTS speaking test yesterday , and this became a topic of discussion with the examiner , because she asked me a short question of my opinion on a recent "viral topic online". I didn't have much time to discuss this with her, but it gave me some time to collect my thoughts of the incident.. and so I've decided to pen this down & elaborate this a little further . 
I'm sure most of you have seen this video by Essena - (update : as she's removed her account , I'm  linking a mirror upload) 
Personally, the only key takeout for me in her video.. Is that she urges people not to be defined by numbers, and to not let numbers define one's self worth. That, I absolutely agree. I respect her courage, but for me .. the content or how one portrays themselves is entirely up to the content creator. I understand why she's upset and is calling herself fake , but hey.. If you're not enjoying the journey, you're probably not gonna love the outcome. 

There are people who make it a goal to be internet famous and what have you , and when they get there, they really are over the moon about it ; or when people attain "accidental fame" , they're just genuinely happy because people are sharing what they love . I guess the point is to not let it consume you .

Moving on, I'm not here to urge everyone to be real, but to take what you see online with a pinch of salt.

Yes, nothing you see online is worth being jealous over ; neither is asking someone how they get so many likes/followers,  bickering about how the engagement is organic/paid for ; stealing other people's content and so on will do yourselves or said person any good. But social media has become a huge part of our lives , whether we like it or not.

There are so many posts circulating around , BTS(behind the scenes) photos of how instagrammers take their food shots , how staged photos are.. of truth & lies etc etc.. But hey. People share an affection for aesthetic beauty.. In simple terms, everyone loves beautiful things, regardless of culture.

We've always been encouraged to put our best foot forward, to try and look respectable and presentable to others and so on.. It would only seem natural that we eventually tried to fulfill our "perfect life" fantasies on Instagram or any other social media, for that matter.

I've seen how people talk about how others would love to see them fail, how people love hearing about mishaps and how sometimes they're afraid to share things when they're upset or feeling down.. Has our world really become as such? Where we're always expected to be flawless and perfect.. And at the slightest sign of your outer walls crumbling.. You must immediately recover and continue smiling? I quote Justin Biebs.. " It’s like they want me to be perfect, when they don't even know that I'm hurting ".

Many matters are quickly sensationalized, and the eventual fact is that most times , those people bear the brunt of cyber bullying for any form of  "fame". 

For me, as long as you're clear on what you want in life and you've no regrets, do what you wanna do and achieve a level of success that makes you happy. You've got nothing to prove to other people (except maybe your parents or anyone who's lent you a hand during your journey). Just don't be the kind of person that spends time building & deliberately trying to portray that "perfect life" ; and then complain about how everyone keeps saying they "have it all" and "they don't know how hard it is for me".. because it's not worth it.

In all honesty, I love social media, but not the drama that comes with it. It has been a great platform for me to connect with so many other people (cafe hoppers, bloggers etc etc).. and it's been a source of inspiration as well . When i get tired of it or when I feel it consumes too much of me, I disconnect.

Everyone has their own opinions on how things should be done, but keeping to the topic here : weather or not social media should be used to promote environmentalism, veganism.. weather it's all about numbers .. just remember this - mass media has always been an influence (think magazine ad placements, tv commercials..) in how we dress, society's standards etc..

As long as you're secure in yourself and you believe in what you're promoting, you have the ability to change people's lives ; and if you think that people shouldn't be doing product placements on instagram, or they should really post "real stuff" like how messy their bed is or if you enjoy seeing pictures of people documenting their daily lives, that really is up to you as well. Just try not to hate on other people for doing what they would .

Do what you love, Do what you will , But keep the balance.

You May Also Like